Advice on older women ? ( Cougar ) help Please !!?

Honestly I think you're way too much of a gentleman. She wants a take-charge man who wants her, and isn't afraid to make a few moves, so she doesn't have to feel awkward trying to initiate something. You're being way too careful when she wants care-free, timid when she wants bold, desperate when she wants confident. You're going to have to change your approach with her.